In the times of 1980s, the conservative people began to have deep interest in opposite sex, although there are a lot of forthgoer bravely tasting the forbidden fruit, they are also mainly the punished objects for college authority, so the trend of falling love first, and then get married is very popular, even though the rate of success is rare, they are getting along with each other well generally.

Until the 1990s, those hosts of youth are almost ending emotional drift and create their families, the younger generation don’t feel shamed about talking about sex, and start the trying of living together first, and then falling in love, it is also called trial marriage in academics. With the opening of chinese economy, the new fashionable generation of after 80s enter a more shocked trial: pregnant first, and then getting married.

The popularity of any kind of social phenomenon would have a reason, some relate responsible person combine the background of times and point out that it may be connected with the more and more open and advanced society, it is sure for one thing about this phenomenon, the child is definitely their own, some social expects warn that nowadays the child can only be sure to belong the mother, the so popular paternity testing has verified the fact. While praising the more and more loose and open marriage environment, the related authority also strictly points out that there still exists the disturb from sex discrimination, and excluding the case of some couples in order to have a boy conceiving before marriage, if it is a girl, they will take induced abortion which will save a lot of troubles. It is said that the sex rate in Guangzhou has already exceeded, the average level in some villages even are higher than the whole province.

According to the actual situation of chinese countryside, the policy of family planning has done some adjustment, which can make sure that the majority farmer have a son in one family. The files of fifth population census shows that the recent rate of man and woman is 116.9:100, if the baby birth rate developed as the presents, until the year of 2020, the number of chinese marriage age man will be larger more than 30-40 million, that means every five man would have one can no find girlfriend. In the province which trial pregnant is so popular, the population rate of man and woman in Guangdong province has greatly disbalanced, it has reached 130:100, the second baby rate is 180:100. The result of the phenomenon pregnant first, then married is really terrible.

A friend migrating to America is back recently, at the lunch time, she memtioned that some people from south korea are not confident any more, they like to claim themselves to be chinese before American. That makes me so surprised that fews years ago we are still fond of the culture of south korea, why they change so fast? There is only one answer to explain it: china has developed into a powerful country.

When talking about how does she feel after back to motherland, she said objectly that china has really grew up, the change is obvious and great. The street is more wider, house is more higher, the urban appearance is more beautiful, nightscape is more bright, which is changed a lot comparing with the year 2005, but she also implicitly said that she did not dare to drive on the road.

I know what did she mean, because she is not the only one person to say that, several years ago, I drove airport to pick up a canada friend, she also said it on my car. She grabed my hand on one side, asked me to drive slowly on the other side. Then I told her that if we drove in her speed, it would have a long time to reach the destination. Her words made me think about a experience one of my friend.

That happened in France, he and two old writers went to the countryside by taxi, it was rainy day with strong wind, on the road a wagon was always stopping them, there were two beauty in the car, their carwheel curled up dust which dirtied my friend’s front windshield. Then he said to the driver: can we overtake it? The driver answered that it was not polite overtaking on such kind of situation. when they were still discussing, the wagon before them stopped, and a gentleman came over and whispered to his driver, then back to his car and driving their wagon into the side of road. Afterwards, he asked the driver about what that gentleman has said to him, the driver told him that: he said it was not fair that their car was always before ours, he also said he did not want to let the two lady in his car think that it should be like that. These words made my friend feel shamed for several days.

Even though the korean claim them to be chinese, when the Japanese begin to claim they are also chinese, then we are really entering a moderizational society, all we need to do is to improve the level of our spirits civilization on the basis of material civilization, then it would not be too far for Japanese to claim they are chinese.

The day before Father’s Day, Party School of the CPC research center appeal to bring the maternity leave for husband into the social insurance, the results of a survey shows that over 90% people regards maternity is also the right of male.

From the side of sex, people who support the view in this investigation are mainly man, that means man are more active than woman in establishing maternity leave, they have a strong sense about right, while whether they realize that maternity leave is not just a right, it is more like a responsibility.

Maternity leave is much different with other holidays, it is not just connected with the special of welcome the new life, the aims of holiday is not for rest, but to take care of expectant mothers and the new coming baby. The double property for right and duty in maternity leave requires the change of traditional culture. Giving birth to child is not just affair of woman, man also need to get involved. The government, employer and woman or man should think about the character in family work division seriously. It is the base for the system to take effect.

The setting of maternity leave for man is good for the harmony of family, husbands can take full use of this holiday to enjoy the happiness of becoming father, having more time to acompany with their wives, which is in favor of their wives of healthy recovery. This system is also better for the realization of sexual equality. According to a investigation done by Fudan University social sex and development research center, it is said that 58.6% women who have the experience of pregnant can not enjoy the right of maternity or give up it. It is obvious that our recent job is not to set up the maternity holiday for man in hurry, but perfect the woman’s right of maternity.

On other side, from the aspect of legislation of protecting the rights of emplyee, the more laws it set does not mean they are all put in place. As long as putting in effect fully, it can show the power of law. Even though the law of maternity for woman has been carried out for few years, there are still many dissensions about the right for baby break. This explains that the enforcement of law still needs to be perfect. The suggest of prolonging the time of holiday have not got any results for long time, now they begins to advise to set the holiday for man, is it too over for that?

According to the family history of rise and decline for those rich families, it shows that no matter how they become wealthy, the case of keeping rich for over three generations is very hard to find. After the reform and opening-up, chinese private enterprise has exceeded 30 milllion, many are facing the fate of not over three generations because the entrepreneurs can’t find successor in their children on the basis of a investigation. There a research indicates that children in recent rich family only 10% of them inherit their parents’s good trait and become a up man.

This phenomenon is not just the character of china, the global family enterprise are all facing this problem, in America, the rate of family enterprise still can keep till next generation is only 30%, to the third generation is 12%, to the fourth or over it is 3%, so there is a saying of rich farmer-noble son-poor grandchild in Portugal. In German, there is three words to express the fate of three generations: create, inherit, destroy.

Chinese people like to provide the best living and learning conditions to their children, not pay attention to training their ability of practice, many rich family children spend luxiously abroad, which shocks their native neighbor. A lot of rich entrepreneur has no conscious on teaching finance to their children. While there still some family can keep their wealth untill the third generation, then what they has done?

First, emphasis the train of behavior, before learning to do something, people should learn how to behave, a family, nation or country, no matter it is rich or keeping rich, they are all based on the people. The most rich person in china Li Jiacheng ever points out the importance of behavior in children education.

Second, the education of diligence and frugality, Adam Smith ever said that a man living in rich family even though had the quality of frugality, it is still hard to make it.

Third, the spirit of struggling. There is a saying in west philosophy that suffer creates the greatness, people without suffering are just like the flower in greenhouse, once facing the wind and rain from outside, they will frustrate and fall down.

Fourthly, the foster of ability, parents’ coddlings only cause them to lose the ability of independence, and hurt the children at last. The aims to cultivate the children’s independence ability is to make them understand the hardness of money and cherish the already wealth. The richest nation in the world, Jew children are taught to distinguish coins and bills by their parents in early age.

There are 50 countries you have to go in the world for life, Tibet is ranked in the first place, and Switzerland second, the investigation is mainly done by the west. If you are a Chinese, I would like to advice you the country: German.

You may laugh that German is barbarian, two thousand years ago, when the ancient Rome has created a life style even can be used today, the Teuton are still wearing the skin of animals. However, other barbarian may be beated by Rome heavily, while the Teuton are leaded by Arminius and beat Rome to be shattered to pieces. That year is 9 A.D., the history of German begins.

Less than speaking that Vienna is the city of music in the world, it would be better to say that it is the place of tormenting the musicians. The musicians ever fight for their future and die at last in hunger, Mozart and Schubert are in them, after entering German, you need to ask where is not the palace of music, like Bach, Mendelssohn’s Leipzig, Handel’s hamburger and some churches in locate. If Austria is the center of music, then German is the trunk and heart of world music. You want to get married? Then you need to strike up Mendelssohn’s wedding march, because no one can better than it. People in the world all go with the wedding march to their happy life. Mendelssohn is the meaning of happiness, can you refuse it?

People who are interesting in the culture of beer, you need to go to German. After the borning of beer in 1040, German begins to be infatuated with it. Once the precise German drink beer, they will become talktive. In German, as long as you propose your wine cup, there will have people to echo you. On the ceremony of annual Munich Beer Festival, the first cup beer is always given to the premier of state, on this day, even though you drive in red face, it is ok, because the police on the street may also stagger, some may even insert a big size cup beer in their waist. It is almost that every small town in German has a factory for beer making.

German is garden of modern culture, the autos on the street are the pride for the German. On Germany’s highway, Benz, BMW, AUDI and VW are everywhere, their cars not just good in performance, quality, the out is also very classic. The buses of inner city are all set a electronic clock to show the time, they are always very punctual. The city is clean, there is no street without sweeping, no grasslot without cutting. The German are serious about their work and have detail plan about. Before going to the supermarket, a housewife will list out all the goods she need to buy. The German are much caring about the quality of life, they are crazy in work, body building, and then enjoy their holiday with abandon.

Yuen Ling-yuk, a representative actress in chinese silent film, she was regarded as “chinese treasure”, a chinese version of Ingrid Bergman, she owned a soft temperament, plain and pure just like a beautiful lily growing in the wild. This kind of woman needs the protection from man especially, while for her, even though had encountered three men in her life, no one could be leaned on. Love and saddness was like a cup of full-bodied wine from sweat to bitter, and then tasteless. The world didn’t tolerate her, which made her choose the way of suicide, she was heart broken by the hurt from her closest lover, her eyes could see the road forward, but ended it in despair.

Yuen Ling-yuk was the first skinny beauty in Shanghai of last century, she was gone with endless love and hate, the nonsense of Zhang Damin and heartless of Tang Jishan made her standing alone on the dock. The times created Yuen Ling-yuk, which also destroyed her, the female sex of depending on male was doomed her to be a tragedy. Even though many people told her to be strong and independent, she was still the kind female relying on male 

26th April, 1910, Yuen Ling-yuk was born in a narrow house in Shanghai, she was the second daughter of this family, so her coming didn’t bring any happiness to her parents, because what they expected was a boy, and if she was, maybe she could have a better fate, after the birth of this kid, her father asked others to give her a quiet name: Feng Gen, a boy’s name, that expressed their hope of her healthy growing up.

Feng Gen’s father died when she was young, which made this family suffer greatly, because of the poor situation, Feng was taken to the rich since she was young worked as servant and lived in the house of servant. She was intelligent and sensible for fear of getting in trouble to anger the host. This strange environment was not that free as mean streets, which made her feel anxious and afraid. After living at the big house of Zhang’s, the restriction in behavior and the lack of playmate changed a lively and bright girl into a silent with few word, some people said Yuen Ling-yuk was born with quiet, they didn’t know her silence was just caused by this suffocating environment.

Little Feng Gen had began to learn washing, polishing shoes, taking care of childe in young. Although her mother didn’t accept any education, she still knew only school could find their way out, she sent her daughter to the famous girls school in Shanghai and told her never memtion to anyone that you were the daughter of a servant. At that society of worship wealth and power, people from the poor were unacceptable in the riches.